Take the Assessment to Discover Your Mindset

Please plan to spend 30 minutes to complete the questionnaire. At the end of the questionnaire, you will read the principle, passion, and purpose of your top-rated mindsets. You can then return to Part 3 of the book, The 25 Mindsets, to verify your mindset.

NOTE: The results are calculated using very simple math: if you rate all questions a "5" you will have 25 "top" mindsets. Therefore, you must differentiate your responses. Take your time and answer authentically.

Identify Your Triggers

The secret to understanding yourself begins with acknowledging the things that irritate you about others. This is an imperative step as it helps you recognize what you find most irritating, as opposed to moderately irritating—a critical nuance.

So, what is your Grr? What do others do that bring about a Grr! sensation within you? Write down at least three things that irritate you about others.

Principle & Trigger Assessment

***Reading these brief instructions will save you time***

Your objective in the next step is to rate each summary as a whole, rating it highest when all statements strongly resonate with you.

Resist the urge to "judge" triggers you have been taught are inappropriate and instead, feel into them as if they were happening. Then, assess how strongly they provoke a Grr! sensation in you.

If you start reading a summary and it’s clear it’s not you, rate it low and move on (you don't need to read every bullet). If it’s a “maybe" or "sort of," you can trust it's not your mindset. Also rate it low. Reserve the 4 and 5 ratings for those triggers you read and think “argh, yes, I hate that!”

You must differentiate your responses by using the full scale of answers, 1-5. Use the following statements as a general guideline:

  1. Not highly representative of me.
  2. Uncertain if it represents me or not.
  3. Somewhat like me; the triggers ignite a moderate charge in me.
  4. Highly representative of me; the triggers ignite a significant charge in me.
  5. Spot on, just like me; the triggers ignite an instantaneous and intense charge in me.

Principle & Trigger Assessment

Assign a value of 1 to 5 to each summary, with a 5 representing statements most like you. Be sure to differentiate your responses by using the full scale of answers.

Mindset 1

  • I am solution-oriented and take initiative to make improvements and make things better.
  • It irritates me when people lack common sense or do something inefficiently because “it’s always been done that way.”
  • It triggers me when people continually complain about their situation, yet they won’t do anything to make it better.
  • I am a highly visual person and see solutions quickly, but get irritated when others can’t see the solution, even after I've thoroughly explained it to them.

Mindset 2

  • I expect people to use common sense and act appropriately for the circumstances (for example, drive slowly when kids are at play; drive fast when on a wide-open road).
  • I am especially irritated when people put rules, restrictions, or limitations in place that are unnecessary or don’t make sense.
  • It irritates me when people claim there is only one right way to do something.
  • I am triggered by people who are deceitful or who abuse their power or authority.

Mindset 3

  • I'm careful to fit everything in and keep everything in balance, so I want people to do their part so things go as expected.
  • I am most irritated when people surprise me or spring things on me with little to no notice.
  • It triggers me when people commit to doing something and then bail at the last minute (i.e., they flake).
  • I get triggered if someone lies to me about something big or small.

Mindset 4

  • I expect people to think for themselves and come to their own conclusions.
  • I am most irritated when people tell me what to do.
  • I’m triggered by people who don’t think for themselves but blindly do everything they’re told (i.e., sheeple).
  • I’m irritated by people who claim to have all the answers and think they know what is best for me and everyone else.

Mindset 5

  • I have a strong intuition and want others to honor their inner sense of knowing rather than relying solely on external sources of information.
  • It irritates me most when people belittle intuition because they don’t understand it or have not developed it within themselves.
  • I’m triggered by people who must see something to believe it and need every statement to be backed with proof and evidence.
  • It aggravates me when people don’t discern the difference between the truth and a false statement that’s been presented as truth.

Mindset 6

  • I want people to show concern for all people and to care about how others feel.
  • It triggers me when people lack awareness, care, and concern for other people and life in general.
  • It irritates me when someone obliviously overlooks other people and treats them like they don’t matter (for example, they take two pieces of cake, so someone gets none).
  • I get irritated when people don’t seem to notice or care about their adverse impact on other people or their surroundings.

Mindset 7

  • It’s important to me that people be good, honest, friendly, personable, and kind to others.
  • It irritates me when people don’t listen or pay attention when they’re having a conversation with someone.
  • I am most irritated when people lack kindness and are instead mean, rude, hurtful, or condescending.
  • I get triggered when people make sarcastic comments that are more hostile than witty.

Mindset 8

  • It’s important to me that people are respectful of people who are different from themselves.
  • It irritates me when people present a dominating, my-way-or-the-highway attitude.
  • I get triggered by people who are intolerant of people different from themselves (for example, "ists" such as racists, ageists, or sexists).
  • I get very irritated when people make waves, instigate conflict, or unnecessarily upset the peace.

Mindset 9

  • I expect people to have good intentions and be tuned in to others’ emotional needs.
  • I am most irritated when people are manipulative or do not have good intentions.
  • I get triggered by people who lack empathy for others and don’t seem to care about causing others pain.
  • I am irritated by people who are charming in their interactions but cunning in their intentions.

Mindset 10

  • I want people to be supportive and to uplift others by offering encouragement.
  • I am most irritated when people lack sensitivity and warmth and are instead discouraging and disapproving.
  • It irritates me when people tear others down by pointing out everything that’s wrong with them.
  • I get triggered when people make others feel bad by degrading them rather than offering reinforcement.

Mindset 11

  • I expect people to express themselves in a clear, straightforward, and direct manner.
  • I am most irritated when people beat around the bush and won’t just say what they need to say.
  • It upsets me when people speak indirectly because they’re afraid of hurting someone’s feelings.
  • I’m frustrated when people say they’ll do something, but don’t do it.

Mindset 12

  • I expect people to have common human decency—to be a good human and do their part to contribute.
  • I’m triggered when people don’t do their part or do less than their fair share.
  • I am irritated by people who lack common human decency and consequently hinder others.
  • I get very irritated when someone doesn’t contribute to a group effort, causing me to have to pick up their slack or do poorly.

Mindset 13

  • I’m triggered by people who are lazy, idle, unhelpful, and unproductive.
  • I expect people to make themselves useful and help out when work needs to be done.
  • I am most irritated when people don’t chip in and help when there are things that need to get done and instead sit around and watch others work.
  • I get irritated by people who are negative, instigate conflict, or create drama.

Mindset 14

  • I expect people to help others, not because there’s something in it for them, but because it’s the right thing to do.
  • I’m triggered by people who are selfish and “me” centric, seeming to care only about getting their own needs met, even if it means hurting others.
  • It irritates me when people hoard information or resources that could benefit others.
  • I get very irritated when someone takes all the credit for something that was a group effort.

Mindset 15

  • I expect people to be on time and to uphold their commitments to others.
  • I am most irritated when people are late.
  • It irritates me when people don’t follow the plan.
  • It triggers me when people ignore the rules and do whatever is convenient rather than doing what is right.

Mindset 16

  • I am results-oriented and expect people to get things done and do their part to achieve the desired result.
  • I get very irritated when people under-communicate or don’t share the details needed to get things done.
  • It irritates me when people think they’re right, but I know they’re wrong.
  • It irritates me when people put outcomes at risk or cause things to not run smoothly.

Mindset 17

  • I need people to keep things moving forward and act with a sense of urgency.
  • I get very irritated when people are unprepared and cause setbacks that could have been avoided.
  • I’m triggered by perfectionists who resist taking action or making decisions until every last detail is buttoned up.
  • It irritates me when people cause delays or keep things at a standstill.

Mindset 18

  • I expect people to anticipate the risks ahead of them and be prepared for what’s to come.
  • I am most irritated when people are unprepared.
  • It irritates me when people head out on an adventure and fail to bring the appropriate gear or don’t dress appropriately for adverse conditions.
  • I’m triggered by people who use untested tactics that could fail and put myself and others at risk.

Mindset 19

  • I expect people to be willing to learn and to work hard to become good at something.
  • It bothers me when people mess up the play or compromise success because they didn’t train or work as hard as others.
  • It strongly triggers me when people waste time on things that don’t matter.
  • I’m irritated by people who refuse to do anything outside their job description.

Mindset 20

  • I expect people to be accountable—to get their tasks done, do their job, and do it well.
  • I get very irritated when people know what they’re expected to do but don’t execute.
  • I’m strongly triggered when people threaten me, my family, or my friends.
  • I’m triggered by people who have a clear task to perform, but then deviate from their responsibilities and do something else.

Mindset 21

  • I expect people to work to do things to the best of their ability and take pride in what they do.
  • I am most irritated when people make a mess but don’t clean it up (for example, letting dirty dishes stack up on the counter).
  • I’m triggered by people who procrastinate, have a poor work ethic, or perform below their potential.
  • It irritates me when people broadcast their flaws as if they are trying to intentionally make themselves look bad.

Mindset 22

  • I expect people to be responsible and to think things through.
  • I get very irritated when people are short-sighted and don’t think through the consequences of their impulsive actions or careless decisions (i.e., foolhardy).
  • I’m triggered by people who see potential hazards but don’t bother to do anything about them.
  • It upsets me if people delay a project I’m part of because they didn’t take a few minutes to read the directions.

Mindset 23

  • I expect people to be truthful, honest, accurate, and to do what's right.
  • I feel most triggered when people do or say things that have the potential to cause harm.
  • I get very irritated when people make baseless claims that can’t be backed up with proof or evidence.
  • It bothers me when people make recommendations when they haven’t done their homework.

Mindset 24

  • It’s important to me that people consider the downstream impact of their decisions and how it will impact others.
  • I get very irritated when people make rash decisions and don’t think about others’ needs.
  • I feel triggered when people bulldoze others to do what’s good for themselves.
  • It irritates me when people jump to conclusions and make uninformed, emotionally driven decisions.

Mindset 25

  • I want people to be considerate and take care to not hurt or trigger others.
  • It irritates me when people brag and boast while directly or indirectly slighting others.
  • I feel triggered when people are not authentic but present themselves in a fake manner to try to elicit a particular reaction.
  • I am triggered when people belittle others or speak in a demeaning or dehumanizing tone.

Identify What Motivates and Drains You

What are you motivated to do? What were you doing when you last experienced a natural high? List three things that come to mind.

What drains your energy. List 2-3 things you avoid doing.

Passion and Void Assessment

Using the same rating scale, assign a value of 1 to 5 to the following mindset summaries, with a 5 representing statements most like you. Be sure to differentiate your responses by using the full scale of answers, 1 to 5.

Mindset 1

  • I am a problem-solver and am eager to help others overcome challenges.
  • I feel most excited when bringing my ideas and visions to life and seeing the fruits of my labor.
  • It’s important to me to make progress, advance good ideas, and make a difference.
  • It would devastate me to do something, then discover it made things worse for someone.
  • I love visually observing progress and seeing everything come together and seeing people happy.

Mindset 2

  • I’m an outside-the-box thinker and like to imagine new ways of doing things.
  • I’m a kid at heart—curious and constantly intrigued, amazed, fascinated, and in wonder of things.
  • I feel most excited when pursuing something that’s interesting and there’s learning involved.
  • If things are boring and uninteresting, I’m apt to procrastinate.
  • My rebellious side shows up when I’m restricted from doing things in new or original ways.

Mindset 3

  • I need new adventures, new experiences, and new things coming into my life.
  • I love to explore new places, meet new people, and travel to unfamiliar locations.
  • I’m easily bored.
  • I like to take qualified risks and do things I’m not certain I can do, then prove to myself I can do it.
  • I want to have fun, do it all, and live life the fullest.

Mindset 4

  • I’m motivated to do things contrary to what is typical, normal, usual, orthodox, or expected.
  • I enjoy proving people wrong and doing what people say cannot be done.
  • I enjoy engaging with others and doing things that positively impact how people feel.
  • I like to explore new ideas or ways of doing something, even if only in my mind, and enjoy the freedom to dream.
  • It’s draining for me to express myself in a way that’s not truly genuine (for example, selling something I don’t believe will help someone).

Mindset 5

  • I most enjoy the freedom to live in the moment, doing what I want, when I want, how I want, with whom I want.
  • I feel most enlivened when following my inner guidance wherever it leads me.
  • I seek out quiet, peaceful environments where I can get centered, connect with source, meditate, or go within.
  • It pains me to be a minion and take orders from people when it runs contrary to what I am internally led to do.
  • I have little desire to work in conventional environments that limit my connection, freedom, and inner knowing.

Mindset 6

  • I am a lifelong learner, eager to learn from others, including those who are ahead-of-the-curve or ahead-of-their-time.
  • I feel most excited when expanding horizons—my own or someone else’s.
  • I love the moments when the light bulb goes off in someone's mind and they suddenly see what they previously did not see.
  • I’m motivated to explore unconventional ideas and serve audiences whose needs have been neglected.
  • I’m motivated to bring beauty, delight, and understanding into the world.

Mindset 7

  • I am attentive to the needs of others and will gladly go out of my way to do things for people I care about.
  • I feel most enlivened when spending quality time with the people I most care about or giving attention to the activities I enjoy most.
  • I enjoy being there for others to help, listen, or offer my assistance.
  • It drains me when I'm disconnected from the people in my life.
  • I deeply cherish the moments where everyone is together, people are happy, and all feels right in the world.

Mindset 8

  • It severely drains me to spend time around negative people who focus on everything that’s wrong in the world.
  • I enjoy bringing kindness, encouragement, laughter, and optimism into my surroundings.
  • I feel most enlivened when I'm a positive influence or when I'm positively impacting myself, others, nature, or the environment.
  • I’m likely to lose sleep or feel bothered by unresolved conflicts and misunderstandings.
  • It's important for me to make others feel good and focus on the good in life.

Mindset 9

  • I most enjoy spending time with people I know and trust, in settings where people feel safe to let their guard down and be authentic.
  • It severely drains me to have to “play the part” and present myself in an inauthentic manner.
  • I’m inspired to make people feel alive and positively impact how people feel (for example, through experiences, nature, beauty, art, music, connections, or words).
  • I feel most enlivened when I’m emotionally engaged in whatever I’m doing or igniting others’ emotions.
  • Forced social interaction and small talk with strangers drain me.

Mindset 10

  • I take great pleasure in the simple joys of life: the taste of foods, the sound of music, and the visual intrigue of color and design.
  • I love making discoveries and coming up with clever ideas (for example, discovering a solution to a problem or finding a new way of doing something).
  • I enjoy working in service professions where I can engage with others and make people happy.
  • I find myself feeling “off” when my surroundings feel unwelcoming (for example, being in gloomy weather).
  • I enjoy stretching my known reality and expanding my awareness.

Mindset 11

  • I feel most enlivened when bringing joy to others.
  • I am quick to use humor and laughter to lighten stressful situations.
  • I’m motivated to help people and give them the support they need.
  • It hurts me deeply to see people whose needs are not being met (for example, seeing an abandoned child or animal).
  • It drains me to take life too seriously and experience life as all work and no fun.

Mindset 12

  • I thrive under the pressure of a deadline, stress, or time constraints.
  • I love having the freedom and flexibility to choose how I get to spend my whole day.
  • I can’t stand working for micromanagers.
  • If something is boring, monotonous, or unexciting, I’ll likely procrastinate.
  • I’m highly motivated to share enjoyable experiences with friends and family and be there for them when they’re in need and I can help.

Mindset 13

  • I am motivated to take steps to progress projects, goals, and tasks.
  • I have relatively no interest in management positions.
  • I love it when I get more done in a day than expected or when things get done ahead of schedule.
  • I feel most excited when all goes smoothly, and things go better than expected.
  • I’m motivated to do essential work and jobs that are necessary to keep homes and businesses running.

Mindset 14

  • It’s important to me to teach people “how to fish,” so they can develop life skills and be self-sufficient.
  • I enjoy strengthening and developing my skillset to become more competent and independent.
  • It drains me to work in unsupportive environments where people don’t contribute to one another’s success.
  • I enjoy teaching—whether formally or casually—by sharing information that supports people in practical ways.
  • It pains me to give people the answer when I know the recipient didn’t learn something they will need to know.

Mindset 15

  • I am motivated to make a positive and significant impact on people’s lives.
  • It drains me when my efforts are taken for granted or are not appreciated.
  • I enjoy finding creative ways to make experiences special, enjoyable, and meaningful.
  • I am motivated to serve others or a purposeful cause where I can make a valuable contribution.
  • I feel most excited when I know that my efforts were impactful and appreciated by others.

Mindset 16

  • I’m motivated to be an invaluable asset to people and projects.
  • It drains me to be underutilized as a resource.
  • I enjoy working on teams that get a lot done, get results, and get along.
  • It excites me to know that my efforts were impactful and appreciated by others.
  • I’m motivated to ensure everything runs smoothly and goes as planned.

Mindset 17

  • I love to connect, converse, socialize, interact, and circulate a crowd.
  • I love talking to interesting people and finding out what other people know.
  • I want to be in-the-know, but I don’t want all the details—just give me enough that I can share it with someone else.
  • I don't care for one-way communication (i.e., being talked at).
  • I feel most excited when making connections, such as listening to interesting people or sharing compelling information.

Mindset 18

  • I’m motivated to take on and conquer personally meaningful challenges that have an element of risk.
  • I enjoy taking on big challenges and persevering until I prove myself competent.
  • I hate feeling like I can’t keep up and am behind the eight ball or at a disadvantage.
  • I enjoy taking calculated risks and putting my capabilities to the test.
  • I feel enlivened when putting myself in consequential situations and then demonstrating competence.

Mindset 19

  • I’m motivated to take risks that will pay off.
  • I get impatient when things become too routine or move too slowly.
  • I’m motivated to win, succeed, and help others to do the same.
  • I feel most excited when taking bold action and making an impact.
  • I’m usually the one to address the elephant in the room and say what others are too scared to say.

Mindset 20

  • I feel most excited when I pursue a challenge and then accomplish that challenge.
  • I am motivated to rise to the challenge and succeed at difficult tasks.
  • I enjoy testing myself and achieving whatever I set my mind to.
  • I wholeheartedly devote myself to pursuits and fuel my achievements with intense determination, focus, and desire.
  • It drains me to fail to achieve what I set out to achieve or have it take longer than expected.

Mindset 21

  • I love checking things off my to-do list (but hate it when I can’t get them all done).
  • I don’t want to start something if I know I can’t finish it—I’m either all in or all out.
  • I need to be active, moving, and busy, which helps me think most clearly and feel happy and energized.
  • I feel most excited when I complete new challenges and achieve my goals.
  • I feel bored and get stir-crazy when I experience life as stagnant and routine.

Mindset 22

  • It’s my nature to dive into something with a singular focus, complete it, then move on to the next thing, as if going through phases.
  • I love to experience the sense of satisfaction that comes from chasing mastery and being good at something.
  • I fully immerse myself in my projects and endeavors.
  • It drains me when someone interrupts my focus and forces me to digress.
  • It drains me when I continue a phase that has come to an end and I am no longer growing.

Mindset 23

  • I am motivated to acquire knowledge and share knowledge with others.
  • I love sharing information with others and witnessing the moment when someone suddenly sees what they did not previously see.
  • I get so mentally absorbed in my work that it’s difficult to have to stop what I’m doing.
  • I am motivated to follow my urge to explore novel ideas, learn something new, and reveal something previously unknown.
  • I don’t give up when something doesn’t work but instead, I try new ideas and get excited about each new test.

Mindset 24

  • I am motivated to be comprehensive and do things well, to ensure people have everything they need (for example, writing a thorough email).
  • I love to solve important problems, come up with great solutions, and fix things.
  • I hate being misunderstood.
  • I’m motivated to positively impact people in meaningful ways.
  • It pains me when what I’m not having a meaningful impact on anyone or anything.

Mindset 25

  • I’m most motivated when I’m doing something worthwhile—spending my time doing something that a good use of my time, energy, or intellect.
  • I am motivated save people time, energy, money, pain, angst, or frustration.
  • I hate wasting time (for example, duplicating efforts or having to remind people to do something they should have already done).
  • I enjoy taking complex concepts and simplifying them.
  • I love finding a sale or getting a deal.
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